Ethical Dinner Party

Originally submitted by: Diane's Dilemma

Dear A2ethics, A co-worker invited me to dinner at their house. I have worked at our business for a couple years, he is still in his first. It started out fine, but when the subject of work came up, he was very critical of the boss and some of our fellow employees. I'm not entirely happy at work either, but I have a longer-standing and deeper relationship with everyone at work, so I did not know how to respond. As he continued his mini-rant, I began to trust this person less, I mean, is he saying the same stuff about me behind my back? How do I tell them I'm uncomfortable talking about work outside of work? Sincerely, Diane's Dilemma Dear Diane, Politely divert things. Talk to the spouse, talk about things you have in common. You came there to get to know your co-worker better, not continue the frustrations of your job when you're off the clock. This is a social gathering. If your co-worker sees it as something else, and you choose to let them vent their frustrations, then you can respond from a neutral point of view. Let them know that you're sorry they're having trouble. Offer suggestions on how they might better handle their situation. You know everyone better and longer, so offer your insights, deepen your new co-workers appreciation for them. And maintain your position. If they are venting to you, then it may be that they trust you and want your support. So give it, without giving in to trash-talking the staff yourself. And as soon as you can, get onto another topic. A2ethics